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Meet Christine D’Alessandro

Hello and welcome! I founded Calming Seas because of a growing need in our community. Women who face divorce and other traumatic life events often need help processing their new reality. Calming Seas provides this needed support through one-on-one sessions, workshops, and retreats.

For me the mission of this endeavor is personal. I experienced divorce many years ago and it devasted my world. I had to begin again and find new ways for coping with being the sole caregiver of my children, maintaining a home, working full-time, and still being emotionally present for my family.

Although I have grown and thrived beyond that, I still remember the trauma and the feeling of being lost at sea, untethered, flailing, and alone.

No one should feel that way, and it is my mission to offer a beacon to those struggling. In addition to my personal experiences, I have a background in psychology and educational administration. How does this diverse experience serve the mission of Calming Seas? I know families. I have stood on the front lines of the family dynamic for many years and have helped families overcome their difficulties while preserving and nurturing the needs of the young children caught in the middle.

I listen. I guide. I teach.

And together we will reflect. We will confront. We will strategize.

And as we journey forward, you will evolve. You will refocus. You will persevere.

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pro-coach

Educator for 34 years

BS in Psychology, concentration in Special Education and Elementary Education from Lyndon State College

Med. In Administration and Supervision from Antioch.

Life Coach certification

Learning to navigate rough waters one wave at a time.

Coaching & Consulting

Coaching & Consulting

Coaching and consulting are two distinctive activities that at times overlap each other during the healing process. In the simplest terms, coaching is coaching the person, and consulting is consulting on the problem. Sometimes clients really don't know which of these they need. Consulting is focused on the physical reality of successfully moving through your day by dealing with or adapting to the obstacles in your way. For example, a divorced mom of two is overwhelmed by juggling work, childcare, educational decisions, wellness, and household management. I can offer consulting services that will help her with time management—minimizing superfluous tasks while maximizing being present in the moments that matter.

This same mom may also need life coaching services that help her manage the stress of added responsibility, the emotional turmoil of starting a new chapter in her life, the fortification of self-worth and self-love, and an unbiased friendly ear. The coaching part is also about helping that person discover and be more aware; it is like having a mirror reflecting what is going on inside. Coaching is a journey of self-discovering and unearthing buried truths. It is process-oriented and an evolution.

In many cases, clients find that they need a little of both and I am happy to move seamlessly between them as needed. I aim to be an unbiased sounding board and a guide.

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Experience in Child Development—What does that mean and how can it help you?

Expert in Early Childhood

What does that mean and how can it help you?

I would like to think of myself as “the child whisperer.” I have dedicated almost 40 years of my life to working with children and their families. My experience in early childhood development is vast and varied. I have served the following roles:

  • Teacher in an elementary school and gifted education program
  • Learning specialist and academic diagnostician of students who have a variety of learning challenges and disabilities
  • Founder of schools
  • Mother

Each of these roles has informed and expanded my work with children. In terms of my educational doctrine, I consider myself to be a developmentalist. This means that I value the natural development of a child as optimal. In other words, I strive to apply all instructions and strategies to honor where that child is at that moment in time. It is vital for parents to have an in-depth understanding of where their children are developmentally at all stages in life so that they can guide and support them with compassion, security, and intentional insight. Our children inevitably come along with us as we ride through life. Let me help you be aware of how that impacts your family, and how you can make decisions that will foster a family life that is filled with emotional well-being and balance.

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About Calming Seas

As we all grow and evolve into the lives we want to live, change is inevitable. Sometimes the change is subtle, and we move forward without disruption, but sometimes the change is invasive and akin to trauma, and we must rebuild our foundation for daily living. For many women who experience divorce, their experience is the latter.

Marriage is an intentional partnership, bonded in love and friendship and often a delegation of responsibilities between two parties, especially when children are involved. When you get divorced, needing to deal with the loss of the partnership is a priority but most importantly, the burden of raising children no longer feels shared. The most significant aspect of divorce is the weight of those burdens, and all those decisions are suddenly yours to bear alone. The physical and emotional aspects that were once united are now solo, the isolation can be debilitating.

Calming Seas was founded to serve those women searching for strategies to build confidence and empowerment to defy the chaos and reestablish their lives on their own terms. This can be as immediate as putting a plan in place to get through tomorrow or it can be in-depth with a focus on turning inward and facing long-term issues. In most cases, it is both.

The goal of this collaborative process is different for each person, but there are some common objectives we will strive for. You begin to open to the work that will welcome authenticity in all thoughts, words, and actions. As a result, we will practice awareness and incorporate reflective thinking in our perception of the world while resisting knee-jerk reactive responses.